How to Process Tragedy

A woman emailed me this week asking how she could process the tragic bombings in Boston. I was honestly at a loss for what to tell her. It’s hard for kindhearted people to understand what could go on in the mind of someone who would want to wreak such mayhem. I know I can’t get my head around it.

What I do know for myself, is that I don’t want what happened to cripple me and my ability to be an epicenter of good in the world. I’m not in Boston, I’m not a paramedic, I’m not able to search for clues about what really happened, but I am here and I can be kind and loving and considerate in the world in which I walk. I can pray for rapid healing of those affected. I can give money to the victims to help pay for medical costs. And I can pray to be the instrument of God’s evolutionary plan for humankind.

What I guess I’m saying is that I don’t want to be stuck because of someone else’s actions. Then pain and fear and hatred win. I want to let Love win through me and in me. In the end, Love always wins.

Who’s with me?


If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.

Dalai Lama